Trina & Sherman, 1991

Trina & Sherman, 1991

I’m prejudiced enough to believe that if you’re going to get married, then you should marry someone you call a true companion—although maybe everyone else does not ask or need that from a life partner, as I do. A true companion doesn’t have to be a soul-mate—just someone who is by your side as you go through this life that is so often hard—and someone who can make you laugh, year after year.

The problem is that when life is challenging you, you can forget to have fun with your true companion. You can become so busy just working through every day that you forget why you got together in the first place. Likely, if you just wanted a friend, you probably wouldn’t have married him or her!

Though there will always be bills, tears, chores, and whatever other burdens trying to tear you apart, you’ve got to take time for the smiles, laughter, and remembering why you love this particular person more than you love other companions. You laugh more when together with true companions you marry. Who else is so good at causing you to smile for no particular reason?

Sherman & Trina, 25th Anniversary, Taos, NM

Sherman & Trina, 25th Anniversary, Taos, NM

When it comes to love, I want to be a fool for my true companion the rest of my days. I so need to stop focusing on what’s difficult in life and remember to bring in more of what makes us smile when we are together, as it did when we first met, before the years had done the irreparable harm we’ve experienced so far and that still yet to come. I see us walking arm and arm, a couple of old fools still in love, for many years to come.

“And when I look in (his) eyes, I’ll still see that spark until the shadows fall, until the room grows dark . . .” (“True Companion” from Marc Cohn, written by Marc Cohn, 1991)

So blessed to have met and married my true companion . . . may I treat him as the treasure he is to me.

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